An “I Am the Clay” Vignette*

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…the righteous are as bold as a lion. Proverbs 28:1 NIV

“Can I try this one in a size 10?”

“Yes, sir—let me get that for you.”

The Thom McAnn Shoes clerk disappeared through the curtain to the stock room to retrieve a pair of black wingtips for my daddy, while we—my daddy, my mother, and I—sat at the back of the store and waited.

It was 1972, the heyday of the Gateway Shopping Center in Decatur, Alabama, just before the shopping mall explosion. Besides the shoe store, there was a Woolworths, complete with a snack counter that served huge banana splits; a Quick Chek grocery store where they let my granny buy cigarettes with food stamps; a Sears and Roebuck, also in its heyday; and a movie theater with two screens. (A few years later, I saw the original Star Wars there 11 times.)

Decatur was a small town back then and people were, for the most part, respectful.

For the most part…

The bell tinkled as the glass door at the front of the store opened. In strode a rather large man. He was wearing a tie, probably a salesman. He was at least 6’4”, 270 lbs., had one of those over-compensatingly loud voices.

“D___, it’s hotter’n H___ out there,” he boomed to the manager who was stationed behind the cash register about midway back.

In 2017, that sort of language can be heard on any TV channel, any time of the day, and we’ve all become inured to it; but in small-town Alabama, circa 1972, that wasn’t the case. And unfortunately, Mr. Loud Mouth didn’t see the little Southern Baptist family sitting at the back of the store.

And he didn’t know my daddy.

Daddy stood up, all 5’10” of him, and turned toward the man. “Sir, I have my wife and son here and I would appreciate it if you’d watch your language.”

He wasn’t indignant or unkind—but he wasn’t apologetic, either. I was an awkward teenager then, overly self-conscious and easily embarrassed. I mentally crawled under a chair, mortified at what had just happened. Big guy just stopped dead in his tracks: Goliath in the front of the store, David in the back.

My daddy and I don’t share many physical attributes, which I was always glad for—he wasn’t very tall and was doing the comb-over by the time he was 30. I do wish we had shared more important attributes, though, especially the uncompromising way he lived out his faith in the Lord…

Big Guy suddenly reached into his back pocket and pulled out his wallet.

“I’m so sorry, sir—I… I didn’t mean…” he stammered. “Here.” He started flipping through his wallet. “I got a wife and kids, too. Here’s a picture. This is my youngest…”

“No, that’s OK,” Daddy said. “I don’t need to see your pictures. I just want you to watch your language in front of my family.”

“Yes, sir—I’m sorry.” He nodded to my mother. “I’m sorry, ma’am—I apologize.”

About that time the clerk returned with a pair of black wingtips. They fit perfectly and we paid and left.

It was weird: on the way out of the store, Goliath didn’t look so big anymore. David’s slingshot had found its target and felled the overcompensatingly loud giant.

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Fifteen years or so ago, I wrote my daddy a letter for Father’s Day and told him what that moment meant to me, how I had never forgotten it. He told me then that he vaguely remembered it; he doesn’t remember it at all now.

There’s a lot he doesn’t remember now: that day in 1972, my letter that made him cry. But that’s OK—I remember enough for both of us.

One day, though, he’ll remember it—all of it. And on that day, he’ll remember that I told him how much I loved him, how I wished I had told him that more often, how I wished I had been more like him. Not short with thinning, blond hair, but bold: bold as a lion…

…just like my daddy.

Happy Father’s Day.

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4 thoughts on “Bold

  1. I’m tearing up as I read this. What love and respect I have for the man who sits in the second pew, two pews up from me. For 25 years (many more if you count the ones when I was a child, made to sit beside my parents during the service), I’ve looked at that adorable comb-over. I’ve watched the back of his head, nodding his agreement to God’s word as it’s preached. I’ve heard his strong ‘Amens’. I’ve seen him look over at ‘the lady on the second pew’, with love and admiration. I’ve watched these two lovebirds share a hymn-book as they sing along with the congregation.
    For many years I watched his hands keep rhythm to the music as he led our congregation in singing. I’ve heard his strong voice as he sang in the choir, and listened with admiration when he sang his, and your mom’s, special, “I’d Rather Have Jesus”. Those days are no more.
    But, I’ve watched his life for 45 years now. I’ve seen his dedication to his church, his pastor, and his pastor’s family, beginning with the great saint of God, Bro. Tucker, and also my dad for the last 25 now. Your daddy has been a constant, faithful witness to me my whole life. I’ve never seen him waiver in his faith. I know he’s not perfect, but I’ve never seen anything in his character that made it anything but spotless in my eyes.
    He calls me Nettsy. Always has. He’s teased me, played tricks on me, done his crazy hand-shake with me when I get to church, shared his garden with my family, and even named 2 of his knock-out roses after my 2 daughters, Abby and Nora. It is sad to see age and ‘forgetfulness’ consume someone who has always been a giant in my eyes. If I could pick a man who embodies the definition of the word ‘deacon’, it would be your daddy, Bro. Tommy. He’s no longer the strong giant he used to be. But he’s still faithful. He may look like a ‘David’, but, he is, and will always be, Pleasant Valley’s ‘Goliath’.

  2. Reminds me so much of my father-in-law, who now resides in heaven. He was so faithful to God, his family and friends. He was always willing to help strangers in distress and never was in a hurry when lending a hand. He gave the down and out food and shelter, had a bus ministry, visited nursing homes and shut-ins from church, and loved his family unconditionally. He would truly die for each one. What a godly saint. Thanks once again, Dusty, for taking us down memory lane!

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