di-a-logue [dahy-uh-lawg] n.


From the CLAY “Story” Series

Something about the event that is the subject of the dialogue below troubled me – particularly our response as followers of Jesus. Although this is a bit of a departure from my usual posts here on “clay,” God laid this on my heart.

I know it’s been a month, but maybe this will serve as “looking back in retrospect” food for thought…

August 1, 2012, 11:45 a.m.

“Accounting, this is Matt.”

“Hey – you had lunch yet?”

“No, and I’m starving.”

“Pick you up out front in 10 minutes.”


“Oh, man, is it good to get out of there. This new project is about to wipe me out. Where we going?”


“Today? I bet it’s going to be ridiculous in there.”

“It’s our duty, bro.”

“Duty? How do you figure?”

“Chick-fil-A Appreciation Day, man – standing up against gay marriage.”

“Duh – I know what day it is. It’s just that there’s something about that whole thing that bothers me.”

“Wait – have you switched to the other side?”

“What other side? Dude, no – of course not. I support Biblical marriage, you know that. And I support Chick-fil-A 100% – their standing up for what they believe, the way they contribute to the community. They’re a great organization.”

“Then what’s the problem?”

“It’s not Chick-fil-A, it’s this whole ‘us’ against ‘them’ attitude. So the pro-gay marriage supporters got upset with what the guy said. We acted like we were all hurt and surprised. Did we expect them to suddenly say, ‘You know, since the chicken guy said it, maybe gay marriage is wrong. I sure do love his waffle fries – maybe I’ll like his world view, too.’ Is that what we expected?”

“So what do you think our response as Christians ought to be? I think we’re doing exactly what Jesus would do in this same situation.”

“I think you’re wrong there. Jesus would have gone to wherever the gay marriage supporters were having fast food and sat down with them and ate with them. He would have had a dialogue with them and discussed why marriage between one man and one woman is God’s plan. That’s what Jesus would do – and that’s what we should be doing.”

“I don’t know anybody who supports gay marriage.”


“Well, except this one woman down the hall in HR.”

“What’s her name?”


“The woman in HR.”

“I don’t know. Starts with an ‘M’.”

“There are only, like, 8 people on your hall. Have you never talked to her?”

“Of course – somebody had a birthday once and we all sang and had cake. And I know what you’re getting at here. I’m not like that.”

“Then why does she support gay marriage?”

“I don’t know – when I get back to the office she and I will sit down and have a latte and talk about it. Do you have a point?”

“You just made my point. ‘We’ are against gay marriage and ‘they’ are for it. There’s no dialogue, no ‘speaking the truth in love’ on our part as Christians – it’s just a standoff. Do you think this whole Appreciation Day is going to make a difference? Are lives going to be touched? Are hearts and minds going to be changed? All the Christians are going to huddle up in Chick-fil-A just like we huddle up in church on Sunday, shutting those out who think differently than we do, waiting for them to come to their senses and beat down our door. And if they clean up enough before they knock and promise to oppose gay marriage and vote Republican we might let them in.”

“The Bible says we shouldn’t forsake the ‘assembling of ourselves together’.”

“It also says, ’Go ye into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature’.”

“At some point we have to stand up for what we believe in.”

“You’re right, we do. And while we’re doing that we also have to lovingly and compellingly and winsomely be prepared to give an explanation for why we believe what we believe, ‘to give a reason for the hope’ that we have. We need to sit down with the gay marriage supporters and be sure they know we love them and Jesus loves them, but that we can’t join them in their quest – and be sure they know why. Not that they’ll change their minds and embrace us, but at least they’ll know.”

“’Do good to those who hate you.’”


“Here we are – are we going to eat here or not?”

“Look at that line. I wonder how many of these people have ever stood in line this long to feed the hungry or help the homeless?”

“Probably not many. I never have.”

“Me either. And it’s begun to bother me lately.”

“Jesus would have – He did, actually. So what do you want to do?”

“About lunch or this conviction I have lately about not being a totally committed disciple of Jesus?”

“Let’s start with lunch…and start praying about the other.”

“Good idea. Subway?”

“Sounds good. We can get it to go and eat in the break room down the hall from my office. Maybe Miss HR will be in there and we can sit down and have a ‘dialogue’.”

“You know if she’s in there I’m going to ask you to introduce us.”

“You do and I’ll pretend to choke on a waffle fry…”

2 thoughts on “di-a-logue [dahy-uh-lawg] n.

  1. EXACTLY what we discussed over here on Appreciation Day! Something about it made me so sad and it took someone putting it into words in an article I read to make me realize what it was! The divisiveness of it….that was what made me sad. Why is it that we, as Christians, try to follow Christ’s example, but we routinely miss the obvious fact that He LOVED SINNERS! I guess we’re glad that He loved us, but once we’re “in the clear” we’d prefer that He not love any other sinners! Thank you for putting this into words….hopefully many others will see it and be reminded what we really could be doing with our lunch! Love you! Tam

    • Beautifully put, Tammy. Jesus didn’t say it would be easy to make disciples of the world, but He didn’t mince words when He said we were to do so. Thank you for your comment.

      – Dusty

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